Old enough to know

The two young girls recently accused of vandalizing a cemetery in Guilford are certainly old enough to know better had they been taught respect by their parents. My first reaction was one of disgust and anger, but I know from experience that a lot of parents do not take the time or make opportunities to teach their children right from wrong.

I take my 31/2-year-old daughter on outings in Mount Hope Cemetery and have done so since she was born. We love to feed the ducks, walk the beautiful paths and watch the wildlife. It is a child’s natural inclination to want to climb on gravestones. My daughter certainly tried when she first mastered walking, but I explained to her that it was not the proper or respectful way to behave. I honestly don’t think she fully understands why she can’t do it, but she does understand that mommy won’t allow her to do it.

As she gets older, I will continue to explain until she does fully understand. I’ve made the mistake of inviting friends with children to join us and soon been appalled when they let their children run here, there and everywhere. I’ve even had to speak up and say, “No!” I simply no longer invite anyone who can’t teach their children how to behave in such a place.

An 8- and 10-year-old should know better. I have a feeling that whether their parents taught them respect or not they probably were aware they were doing something they weren’t supposed to, but the responsibility lies ultimately with the parents.

Julie Lisnet

Bangor