Helping parents, teens resolve conflict

BANGOR – Almost all parents and their teenage children disagree over such issues as curfew, choice of friends, chores and dating, say officials at Penquis CAP.

Some conflict is to be expected during the tumultuous teen years, but, in some cases, family disagreements can turn into outright battles. These battles are often emotionally and physically exhausting and can threaten family relationships if not resolved. Fortunately, there is help, and what’s more, it’s free.

The Penquis Dispute Resolution Center of Penquis CAP offers mediation services to parents and teens in conflict. Services are free and offered to families in Penobscot, Piscataquis, Hancock, Washington and Aroostook counties.

Skills learned in mediation can be used to help solve the immediate conflict, as well at to manage conflict throughout one’s lifetime.

Though mediation can start out as a scary process, it is usually quickly seen as an opportunity to express opinions and feelings in a safe and controlled environment.

Sometimes, this is the first time this opportunity has been provided to kids, and they often share their thoughts and emotions that their parents were unaware of, officials explained.

Opening the door to dialogue generally provides improvement in family life and other added benefits such as improving relationships, not only with each other, but also with teachers, friends, parents and spouses.

The center helps approximately 50 families each year. Mediation sessions are held in a safe and private setting outside of the home, but in a location convenient to the family. The mediators travel throughout the northern counties to help families in need. For more information, call 973-3587 or toll-free (888) 497-3500.