In response to the article by David Kolpack “How to maintain civility key to autism debate” (BDN, Aug. 14): As the mother of a handsome, athletic 20-year-old autistic son, I have to say it is the responsibility of the parents or caregivers to help my son with cues on how to behave in all settings. If he cannot follow directions and cues, he has consequences, which could mean leaving the setting. My son had the benefit of very early detection and intervention using behavior modification – natural and logical consequences – and sensory desensitizing techniques. He was born into a family of professional social workers. These were advantages.

Now he is a pleasure to take grocery shopping because he knows where everything is, to church because he loves the music and sings with enthusiasm, and anywhere else in the community. Again, this took enormous hours of training. If my son was loud and disruptive, we would voluntarily leave. Toughing it out does no one any good. Political correctness does not mean allowing disruptive behavior. My daughter, who does not have autism, would not be allowed to be disruptive. Why would I just let my son carry on?

Regarding the priest in Bertha, Minn., right on! My son was baptized Catholic but the Mass is indeed quiet and contemplative most of the time. He goes to a church that rocks with music and where he is a welcome addition. Perhaps the Race family can check into alternatives rather than pushing for rights. In my opinion, community living is about consideration of each other and finding compromises for differences.

Susan C. McEwen

Pittsfield